I think sometimes about how hard it can be to be ourselves…truly who we're meant to be. I especially feel this way while I’m continually building my business at Love What’s Next. I want everyone to love what I have to offer because I believe I have something really great to share and I believe everyone could benefit from what I learned while on my LWN journey. So I’m constantly trying to figure out how I can appeal to everyone so I can reach more people. But it hit me the other day, I can’t appeal to everyone, not everyone is going to like or relate to me and that’s okay.
The only thing that matters is that I am true to who I am! Be who God made me to be and share that with the world. I can’t be who I’m not to appeal to the masses. If I can do that, then I will find "my people".
Do you ever find yourself feeling this same way? Afraid to be who you are for fear someone might not like or accept you? I’ve always admired those people who know who they are and aren’t afraid to be themselves.
I heard a story yesterday of a young man, who from the time he was really little, loved to sing. In fact, he always had a tune in his head going most of the time. One of the things he loved was singing in the shower and as he grew older it was either rap from Chance the Rapper or contemporary Christian music. I know, seems like a contradiction, I was thinking the same thing but it’s actually not, Chance sings about his faith in his music too.
He’s played on a traveling sports team most of his teen and now adult years and has a new roommate every time the team travels. Growing up he was conflicted by being himself (singing in the shower or just openly playing his Christian music like he did every day) and taking the risk that the guys he’s rooming with might not like him or judge him in some way.
On a most recent trip he decided to be completely himself. He cranked his Christian music while he was in the shower every morning on their trip and sang just like he would in the privacy of his own home. He also played his music in the hotel room whenever he was just hanging out in there.
Because this guy was being himself, it allowed for his most recent roommate to feel comfortable about opening up to him about his life and some family issues he’s been struggling with at home. That particular weekend three guys from his team asked to go to church with him while on their trip.
To me the moral of this story is that when we are ourselves, it allows others to feel safe to be themselves as well. The world needs each of us to be who we're meant to be. People need what we have to offer no matter who we are.
This guy needed to be himself at that particular moment so that his teammate had a friend to confide in about his struggles. I need to be myself fully so that I can help those who are looking to love where they are in whatever transitional phase they may be in and YOU too, need to be yourself and share with the world who you are. You just never know who you're going to meet that needs you in their life!
What holds you back from being truly yourself? Take one step today showing someone who you truly are and see what happens. If they turn you away, they're not "your people" and that's okay. You can't make everyone like and accept you and that too is okay. When you accept and understand this, it's actually quite liberating!!
A big part of loving what's next and finding joy there is connecting with your tribe..."your people". We were made to connect and have lasting relationships so why not create those relationships with the people that "get" you?! BE YOU so you can find them!!!
It's not what you do or what you have that matters, it’s who you become. -Mathew Kelly
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Nicole Cavey is the Chief Pursuit Officer of Love What's Next. Through her personal journey to uncover what was next for her, she discovered that you can love where you are no matter what stage in life you are in... as long as you know how. Her mission is to show YOU how!