This time of year can be difficult when you’re in a transitional stage in life. Moving to a new town and not having your normal friends and family near or starting a new job and maybe money is tight and you can’t get home for the holidays. If you have lost a loved one and this is your first year without them it can be extremely difficult.
It can also be the best time of year if you are going through the empty nest stage and your kids will be home for the holidays or you have since moved away and you are heading home yourself for the holiday season. There are all kinds of emotions that go along with this time of year, but whatever it may be for you, it’s important to be sure you set yourself up for success for when the holidays are over.
I lost my dad this past June and the holidays will be different this year without his sweet, jovial, giving spirit. I didn't always get to spend the holidays with him and my sweet momma but the traditions we celebrated from a distance will be missed. I will be forever grateful to him for the example he set for me of giving and the true reason we celebrate this season.
If the holidays are a difficult time of year for you, staying focused and diligent on your normal, daily routine of meditating/prayer, exercise and feeding your soul with positive and motivational content, can be extremely helpful in getting you through this difficult time. Don’t be afraid to reach out to your loved ones to help you get through this time of year and creating new traditions can also bring a positive light. My family is planning a new tradition that will reflect on who my dad was during this time of year.
I know from my own personal experience that January can beat me up! I come off of this huge high of having my family together and being busy with the festivities of Christmas that when it's all over there is a huge let down. Can you relate?! Don’t get me wrong, it is nice when things slow down again but after the dust settles do you find yourself asking yourself, “What’s next and how can I find joy there?”
Love What’s Next was created to inspire each of you to learn and experience ways to create a life you love... ALL YEAR LONG through our Six Pursuits. So even while you are rushing through the season, you don’t lose sight of what fulfills you the other eleven months out of the year... and when the dust settles, you still have joy, purpose and meaning in your life.
We are offering a FREE Project called the 24 Days of Holiday Fun to enhance your experience this time of year with fun challenges in each of our Six Pursuits. We call them "challenges" but don’t let that word scare you...these challenges are FUN and EASY and will make your holiday season so much brighter! This won't add to the chaos but only help YOU get into the spirit of the season more!!!
So whether this is a happy time or a difficult time of year for you, this Project will only create joy! I PROMISE! I hope you choose to join us!
Comment below what this time of year brings for you. We would like to support you at Love What’s Next.
Life can be so overwhelming some times?! One minute you think you know what you’re doing and then the next minute, the rules of the game change.
I have to be completely transparent. Starting a new business can be extremely overwhelming and daunting some days. Learning new technology and innovative ways to market Love What's Next, can be mind boggling! Don’t get me wrong, I am incredibly grateful that there are so many tools at our finger tips today that make our lives more efficient, but goodness there is a lot to learn. My sweet mom shared a quote with me the other day that kind of sums up what it feels like when starting something new or moving into a new phase in life. “Everything is hard until it’s not.” Wow!! Did that ever nail it on the head for me! It's always difficult in the beginning when faced with something new but once you figure it out, it's not hard any more.
COMPASS OF LIFE
Life can be challenging at times and it's hard to stay grounded and full of joy. That's why it’s so important to know where you're going so you don't lose your way and become overwhelmed and disheartened. Each of us needs to have our own compass that guides us on the path to where we want to go in life.
That compass always points us in the right direction. My compass points me every day to start with my morning routine. If you follow me regularly, you know how passionate I feel about a positive and motivational start to the day. In it's simplest form, it starts with mediation/prayer, exercise of some kind, and motivational inspiration. Without this, my path looks foggy and it’s really difficult to see the way.
My compass always points me towards family and friends. At Love What’s Next, this is one of the most important of the Six Pursuits, and it’s called Humans. Science has proven that 80% of our happiness comes from the close bonds we share, with the people we care for the most in our life. I make sure that I spend time with my family and friends on a regular basis, and tell them daily how much they mean to me.
My compass points me to practice gratitude. Practicing gratitude helps us feel more positive emotions, improves our health, deal with adversity, and build stronger relationships. I always feel a sense of joy after expressing in my journal, or during my self talk (yes, I talk to myself haha! You know you do too), how thankful I am for my many blessings. This keeps me incredibly grounded and hopeful...pointed in the right direction.
Do you know where your life’s compass is guiding YOU? When life throws you a curve ball and your compass needs to recalibrate, do you know how to find your way? What guides YOU?
I believe it’s a higher power, the positive habits we create, and the people we love, that ultimately make up the compass of life. They get us back on track, clear the fog and confusion and redirect us on the path to where we want to go.
What do you think? Comment in the space below what makes up your compass of life. I would love to hear from you!
Do you ever stop to think why you're doing or saying something before you say or do it? So many times in our life we speak without thinking and hurt someone’s feelings or we act in a way to make ourselves feel or look better, but in reality we're really only damaging important relationships in our lives. Today’s blog post falls under our Humans Pursuit (creating lasting relationships).
I remember on my love what’s next journey listening to a podcast where the speaker was speaking on this topic and he said, “Just remember...you’re not that important.”
That really resonated with me, after I got over the shock of what seemed to be a harsh statement. Isn’t it so true though?! Why do we feel the need to put others down in order to build ourselves up or make ourselves feel better? We’re just not that important! Right?!
A really great question to quickly ask ourselves before we speak or act is, “What is my intention?”
Asking ourself this question is a good habit to practice because it can prevent us from saying or doing something that might create a break down in communication with the people we love. For example, I'm about to react to something my husband said that hurt my feelings. I stop and ask myself, "What is my intention in my reaction?" Is it to hurt him back and create a fight or is it to find a way to tell him that he hurt my feelings without making things worse? Because in all reality he may not have intended to hurt my feelings in the first place.
This is where the statement, “You’re not that important” comes into play. If I get all worked up because I think to myself, “He's so mean, how can he hurt MY FEELINGS like that?!” the situation escalates and now turns into a fight. When instead, if I think to myself, “He probably didn’t even mean or know he hurt me”, I can then react in a way that creates a healthy form of communication.
Another example might be when you are talking with your friends, and you're about to share a not so nice story you heard about someone you all know. STOP and ask yourself, “What is my intention in sharing this story?" I bet it will stop you quickly from sharing and prevent you from hurting someone.
Can you see how this could literally change the level of joy in your life just by taking two seconds before you speak or act, to ask yourself this simple question…"What is my intention?” I can't tell you how many times this has helped me in my relationships. Thinking before reacting, nine times out of ten, has helped me create lasting relationships with the people I love the most.
I hope this helps you find MORE joy in your daily life! Share in the comments section below if you can relate to this topic and how it can help you. Thank you!!!
Nicole Cavey is the Chief Pursuit Officer of Love What's Next. Through her personal journey to uncover what was next for her, she discovered that you can love where you are no matter what stage in life you are in... as long as you know how. Her mission is to show YOU how!