I’ve so been there! You know that rut that feels like a canyon you just can’t seem to climb out of. You so desperately want to feel more joy in your life but you just can’t seem to muster up the energy and the will power to do it. Every night before you go to bed you tell yourself tomorrow’s the day, I’m going to start that exercise program and I’m going to pack a healthy lunch to take to work. I’m going to reach out to my friend I haven't seen in forever to see if she wants to meet up this week some night for a glass of wine. I’m going to look for a new job online during my lunch break and then I’m going to make a delicious dinner for my husband so we can have a really nice dinner together.
Morning comes, the alarm goes off an hour earlier in order to have time to get to the gym and make that healthy sack lunch before you head out to work. You hit the snooze button and fall back asleep. Now, you’re behind and don’t have time to get everything done that you told yourself you wanted to do before going to work. You’re mad at yourself but not mad enough to jump out of bed and move fast to accomplish at least one thing, a walk or pack your healthy lunch.
The rest of the day ends up being just like every other day in this “canyon” you’re trying to climb out of…unsuccessful and disappointed again. You didn’t pack a lunch so you had to go out for lunch. That led to not having time to look for a new job during your break. You weren’t in the “right mood” to call your friend to set a date to meet up even though you know it’s what you need to help you get out of this funk and after work you’re feeling defeated again and don’t feel like cooking so you pick up pizza for dinner.
And the cycle continues…Am I right?!
If this sounds familiar or a story similar, just know you’re not alone! EVERYONE at one point or another goes through this “transition". Whether it’s something traumatic that’s caused this rut, like the loss of a loved one or overcoming an illness or maybe it’s a transition into empty nest (this is most definitely a feeling of loss), we’ve all felt this way or will some time in our life. Our parents are aging, our kids are moving out and we’re facing a "new normal”.
I most definitely felt paralyzed when the youngest of my three left for college. I so wanted to be excited about life but I just didn’t know how to climb out of my “canyon”. Over time I got so sick of feeling this way that I finally decided to make a change. I committed to making one, small, NEW, GOOD decision a day. Focusing on one, new thing prevented me from feeling overwhelmed and defeated. Instead I felt accomplished and proud of myself for making progress towards my “new normal”. That one decision led to another and another and over time I was soaring above the canyon full of joy!! I began to research what the most successful, grateful, and joyful people in the world do to prevent falling back into that rut. I studied them, tested and experienced each one and those were my ONE, NEW, GOOD decision each day that I implemented into my life that catapulted me out of the canyon.
If you're in a rut and want to be led out as quickly as possible, message me at firstname.lastname@example.org . We can set up a time to chat! Make that email to me your first, NEW, GOOD DECISION on the road to finding joy every day in your life!! I've been there, I can help!!
Nicole Cavey is the Chief Pursuit Officer of Love What's Next. Through her personal journey to uncover what was next for her, she discovered that you can love where you are no matter what stage in life you are in... as long as you know how. Her mission is to show YOU how!