When my youngest was gearing up and excited to leave for Gonzaga University at the end of his senior year of high school, I was secreting "dying" inside. My heart was breaking, in fact I'm holding back tears right now thinking about it. I understand not all moms go through this but it was a very sad time for me. I was so sad when each of my three kids left for college but with the older two, I always knew I had at least one more at home to care and tend to.
My kids have always been my most important purpose in life and I think many of my friends would say the same thing, so when they all left, I felt like they took my purpose with them.
I share this because I know some of you are experiencing these feelings right now as your own babies are getting ready to leave too.
It's a feeling that is indescribable! Am I right?! You don't want them to stay but you don't want them to go either. There's a huge sense of loss but at the same time you're excited for them to spread their wings. You worry about them making the right choices even though you know in your heart they're ready to make them on their own.
You still want to be needed. You wonder what will I do once they're gone?
I'm not sure you ever get use to them being gone but you do find a new normal. I'm here to tell you it does get easier with time and once you find a "new purpose", understanding they will always be your number one purpose, life begins to look a lot brighter. And once you're ready, you can begin to write your next chapter and you can write it however YOU WANT!!
Because I've been where you are and I went through years of learning how to find joy with an empty nest, I can lead you on the most amazing journey of discovery to find "what's next" for YOU!
In 13 short weeks (it took me 4 years) you will begin to rediscover yourself again without kids and experience all that life has to offer. It's AMAZING where this journey will take you. I've never had so much joy..EVERY SINGLE DAY!
Our next start date for the Love What's Next Project is September 9th. Perfect timing for you to jump start this new chapter in your life as your babies are leaving to begin their new, exciting adventure!!
I so wish I had this Project when I was facing what you are today! I PROMISE YOU that I can show you how to find more joy in this new transition in life.
Nicole Cavey is the Chief Pursuit Officer of Love What's Next. Through her personal journey to uncover what was next for her, she discovered that you can love where you are no matter what stage in life you are in... as long as you know how. Her mission is to show YOU how!